As the daughter of a mother who was the target of my narcissistic father’s abuse and, now that she has died, I’m the target, please consider leaving. He was a master at gaslighting her and creating chaos amongst us siblings and now the results of this abuse has been passed on to my nieces. I remember being eight and wishing my parents would divorce. They never did and I truly believe that his treatment of her played a part in her early death. I promise — your kids might feel pain in the short term, but the long term benefits shouldn’t be dismissed.